Missed Me So Much

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Missed Me So Much

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This is about that acquaintance you bump into who may (or may not) have an agenda. You don't know if they're being nice to you because they really like you and seek friendship, or they want something from you, like coming back to a church that you don't fit in.

I especially have noticed this after leaving a church I'd been part of for most of my life. Sometimes, the message lying under "I've missed you" is a less pleasant, "Repent, sinner, or you're going to hell."

Lyrics: 

1. Oh, you saw me at the store and then at the park.
Today we met at the school. Your face went dark.
Each time that you see me, we awkwardly touch.
You brighten up bravely, say, "I've missed you so much!"

Oh, if you missed me, really missed me,
You'd invite me out for a drink.
Oh, if you missed me, really missed me,
I wouldn't have to stop and think:
Am I on her agenda? Or does she want to be a friend?
Do we have anything in common? How will this all end?

2. Oh, you've missed me at the church. You've missed me in the pews.
You've missed my hard work, but you don't miss my views.
I'm a number. I'm a square in a round, round hole.
You don't really, truly care. Just miss me on the roll.

Oh, if you missed me, really missed me
You would invite me for a walk.
Oh, if you missed me, really missed me
You would stay a while and talk.
You'd not gossip about me, or call me a sinner.
You'd arrange your plans to join me for dinner.

Oh, you've missed me at the church. You've missed me in the pews.
You've missed my hard work, but you don't miss my views.



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Comments

cindyrella's picture

What a wonderful song! And I have seen this sort of thing happen so many times-both from church and other times when I was used. You guitar and vocals are just so good!

billwhite51's picture

very well put. i guess we have all been in this situation, especially when separating from a group identity. the singing is so plaintively honest and the rhythm expresses the emotional immediacy of your dilemma.

Technicolor Gramophone's picture

I don't go to church, but I can identify with the story. Great to be able to get this out in a song! Really beautiful singing and performance.

kahlo2013's picture

So so so true! Love how you captured this weird and unsettling social behavior that is unfortunately too common. The explicit and implicit are too often incongruent in some circles. Lovely song, tough reality. Sorry you have been experiencing it.

izaak's picture

Hmm... I have a pretty idea where this is coming from... It's interesting how much societal norms are based on context... My wife and I lived in Reno, NV and were saints among the sinners... then we moved to northern Utah and were sinners among the saints... but we didn't really change our lifestyles at all. There are many ways to live. Wonderful song, and a fairly unexplored topic. Why should it be so complicated, right?

JamKar's picture

My church experiences have mostly been positive, because I never really went full evangical I guess. However, I can remember the group coercion, (be it subtle) in my early years among some evangical friends. So this song makes the point quite well, with your gentle vocals and guitar.

johnstaples's picture

A lovely song exploring some very deep topics! I am of the opinion that everyone has these tendencies/behaviors and some just hide it better than others! Smile Sorry to be a cynic. The lyrics are really good as you cover this quite well! And your melody is enchanting especially with your lovely vocals! Great work on this one!!

corinne54's picture

Oh, you've missed me at the church. You've missed me in the pews.
You've missed my hard work, but you don't miss my views.

Those are my favorite lines, but the entire lyric is really very strong. And the music is very good too! Smile